Friday, we had started talking about Gardiner High School student Emma Hickey's video and it veered into women and how they dress when they're out (watch the video and you'll see how we got steered into this similar conversation).

What I said on Friday's show is, "maybe if a woman dresses overly provocatively it might/could trigger a nut-job to assault a her at a club (or pick a place) where she is out alone or with friends." Did I ever suggest that her attire would give a man the "right" to assault her? How long have I been on the radio here championing women and women's causes?

Still, there is a segment out there that just waits for the right opportunity to pounce and say, basically, "he hates women and thinks the way they dress is 'asking for it'."

No...I never said that...nor did I imply it. But there are those who have gone off on social media suggesting I would do, and in fact did, just that.

Below, find a letter sent to me via the 92 Moose Facebook page along with my response (and the response to my response). I don't expect it will change the opinion of people of the ilk that hate me (and perhaps, all men) but I want it to explain what really went down on our show on Friday (3/5). By the way, this email is typical of social media posts from a bunch of women (some of whom, I know, are friends of one another).

Heather S.
Mar 6th, 2:11pm
Jon james, It's come to my attention that a woman asks to be abused and raped by the way she dresses. You're a fu***ng idiot. Even if a woman is naked and passed out drunk, that doesn't give ANYONE the right to violate her body. If you're making food and I happen to walk by and smell it, does that mean I'm entitled to eat it? Of course not. you haven't given me consent. If you're on the bus and counting your money, does that mean I'm entitled to take it from your hands? You're pathetic and as someone who has the power to reach thousands of listening mainers, I would hope you would help to destroy the rape culture. I hope you have no daughters, because if she's off to college and happens to get raped, you should ask her what she was wearing (According to you it's all because of what a woman is wearing). You're a disgrace.

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Sent by Jon James- Voiceovers
Mar 7th, 11:38am

Hello Heather.

Jon James here.

Such nasty words! Rape culture? What created the rape culture? Can you answer that for me?

You are an extremely rude person to throw names and accusations out at someone who works very hard for women and empowering women. I have nothing but the utmost respect for women except those who are ill informed and lash out about me or the conversation that led you to make these accusations.

Actually, I never said or implied that ANYONE has the right to violate a woman's body. Listen to yourself. Does that sound like anything I or anyone else would actually verbalize?

Your analogy to food is lost on me because, as I said above, I never felt that anyone is entitled to anyone's personal space, uninvited, for any reason.

Did I suggest that maybe what a woman is wearing might trigger a nut job man to act on his uninvited impulses? I did. In a very minimal number of cases, perhaps, but don't discount my concerns as non-existent.

Here I am, very concerned about women and violence against women and what do I get? I get told, basically, I'm not helping to destroy the, so called, rape culture (which I, personally, do not subscribe to....let the hate begin).

This whole thing began, not even as a discussion about women and what they wear. It started as we talked about Emma Hickey's (GAHS student) video, which is posted at the our website, 92moose.fm. It addressed how media, images, etc., are causing unrealistic and, frankly, dangerous portrayals of women.

I am a huge champion of women and their self-esteem and safety. If you listened to my many discussions with the Sexual Assault Crisis and Support Center, the Family Violence Project and others, you might have heard about that. Do I hear from you when I champion women's causes (like I did in the article about Emma's video...or when I talk with Healthy Girls, Hardy Women representatives)? Nope!

One misunderstanding of a point I'm trying to make, though, and you jump out of the woodwork calling me an "effing idiot." Nice. Thank you for that. I actually have much more respect for people and their opinions than that....even yours. Clearly though, you're not up for a discussion. You want to drop your verbal assault bomb, go away feeling cleansed, and think you've accomplished something. You haven't.

I won't waste anymore of your time. I don't imagine you'll even make it this far. With that, I will say I appreciate your opinion. It would have been much more palatable had you been less ill-mannered. Your attack and run method shows me you aren't even open to any possibilities other than what you have trained with...but just remember...the world is not black and white...but that's how you painted it when you sent your note.

Be well, Jon James

Heather S.
Mar 7th, 11:51am
What created a rape culture? A patriarchal system that blames the victim, that's what causes rape culture. "What were you wearing?" "Why were you drinking?" "Look what she was wearing. She's asking for it." A woman has the right to wear whatever she wants and drink as much as she wants without the fear of someone violating her body. And no, I try not to listen to your radio station because I have better taste in music than Ariana grande and Taylor swift. That's why I said it has come to my attention that YOU said a woman can be responsible for her rape negate of what she chooses to wear. If I'm sunbathing in my bikini on the beach does and I'm raped, have I only myself to blame? This kind of thinking is not only wrong, but like I said before supports rape culture. If certain men can't control themselves after a few drinks, then maybe they shouldn't be the ones to drink. If a man thinks he had the right to a woman's body without consent brevets of what she wears (which is not only ridiculous, the fact that people say this actually makes me laugh) that man needs serious help. The world is not black and white, but you've summed it all up by saying women are responsible for their own rapes because of what they wear. You're what's wrong with this society. In done with you.

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