Update On What To Do When You See People From Your Past
I don’t know if you remember, but I wrote an article last week about seeing people from high school and how interacting with old friends can be as unnerving as making a new one. However, when I wrote that article,I was not fully prepared for the old friends I would meet again.
I was at our local ice cream place with my father when I noticed a girl behind the counter. This girl just so happened to be someone I went to school with at St. Michaels, a girl I played field hockey with. At first, I was unsure if she remembered me or if she wanted me to remember her; but she did. We started talking, andI found out she goes to university two hours from my own school in Nova Scotia. How crazy is that? From there, we talked while she scooped my lemon custard ice cream and when we paid I thought it was a nice encounter with an old friend, andthat’s all it would ever be. I was wrong.
The next time I came in for a scoop, we began talking again, andI took the biggest leap of friendship ever. I asked her to get coffee, so we could actually talk without having ice cream-hungry customers waiting behind us. IT WORKED!! We decided to go to the Lobster Fest in Rockland (I have all ways wanted to go) and go on her family friend’s boat.
I think the moral of this story is that to have friends and do fun things, you have to work to make it happen. In a perfect world, everyone would know exactly what you want, and people would never confuse anything, but we don’t live in a perfect world. We live in a world that has conditioned us to be afraid of failure; of getting turned down. But I don’t want to live like that. So, I will make the first move in a friendship. I will say hello to you. I will put aside my own fear so that you don’t have to because I love having fun and making memories. But most importantly I love living life. Come live it with me.