More Dating Advice from a Single Guy
It's time for more Dating Advice from a Single Guy
I can't tell you how many time's I've witnessed this scenario:
One member of the relationship (we'll call them "A" isn't comfortable with the closeness of the other (B) and a "friend" (C) I'm using these letters to indicate this can literally happen in any relationship, male/female, female/female, male/male. Whatever your situation.
This has been played out on every single tv show since the beginning of time. One person gets mad, claims they're overreacting, then fights happen and harsh words are said.
Now as someone on the outside looking in, I find myself agreeing with A. If you have committed yourself to someone for any amount of time, seeing them show affection to someone else can be seen as a breach of trust.
When A, talks to B about this. B will immediately go on the defensive, understandably. They'll say something along the lines of:
-We've been friends for years
-You just don't get our friendship
-You have nothing to be worried about
I'll be the first to say, B is making logical points from their perspective, If this were a football game, that would be a field goal.
However, A still has the win. Because in a relationship, it is no longer about B thinking about B, it's about B thinking about A. and in this situation A is not comfortable, A has witnessed something about B and C that A is not okay with, and B needs to listen and respect A's feelings. ESPECIALLY if it is the first time they're showing it.
Call it jealousy, call it insecurity, call it whatever you want, it is still your significant other having an upset feeling, an adverse reaction to something you have directly or indirectly done.
The same way they'd feel if you, lied to them, said hurtful things, etc.
A relationship at its baseline is all about trust and honesty. If your significant other comments on a situation that genuinely is bothering them, and you blow it off like it's nothing. Who's to say they won't open up again.
If they are unable to be honest with you, trust starts to fracture.
Now, I do need to put a discalimer, this situation is not a regular thing. This is when A has an odd reaction to the relationship between B and C. NOT when A has a problem with B and C, D, E, F, G, H....
IF you notice this is becoming a regular thing, run for the hills because that person is a manipulator.
That's all I got for you this week.
If there is a topic you'd like me to touch on next week, message us.