Lizzy Was Propositioned For Sex On The Streets of Lewiston
Last night I was on lower Lisbon street. A friend and I were at a local recording studio creating a song and at one point in the evening we took a break.
I went outside and as I was standing there, I noticed that a few gentlemen pulling up in a truck.
I didn't think anything of it so I just stood there on my phone. The guys went into a near by store and once they came back out one of the guys turned around said something to me.
At first I thought that he was beginning to ask how to get somewhere. That wasn't the case.
The words that came out of his mouth were, "Hey sexy, how much?"
He propositioned me for sex, asking how much I was worth.
I responded to him with a confused look then turned around and walked back into the building.
Now, I am assuming this question he asked wasn't because he wanted to know my net worth. He was asking how much my body was worth.
If there is one thing in this world that I could teach someone, mostly men, is that sometimes it's better to say nothing at all.
The first thought that came to my mind was, I don't look like a prostitute, do I? I immediately became self-conscious.
When I reflected on that first thought later, I was so upset with myself. I know better. I won't tell you what I was wearing, because it wasn't a sign that said, "I'm a prostitute, buy me." Therefore, it's irrelevant.
If you're someone that is going to ask a question like that then you need to know be prepared with looking completely insecure, of having little or no value yourself and being very desperate.
I have gotten to a place in my life where I love my body. I love showing off the parts of me that I love and I will never apologize for it. I am curvy and gorgeous and you're going to see how much I love myself because I used to hide for too long.
Many of us have experience cat calls and people "sliding into your DM" but I have never had someone ask me how much I was "worth."
Let me break it down for you, you couldn't afford it. Because I am worth everything. It all.
I did assume that we, as a generation and a public have grown past this type of behavior but I suppose we haven't. They're are always going to be people that sexualize you, hit on you, and try to proposition you.
Always remember that, they just don't understand how the world works yet and they need a little more time.
I wanted to share this moment I had experienced because within it, lies an important lesson.
YOU are the only one that matters. What you think about yourself is what is important. I hope you love yourself regardless of how others perceive you.
You're sexiness is yours. You don't belong to anyone. You are not "on sale".
It's all about coping with that behavior from others and at the same time trying to educate others, especially young people, on self-worth and not saying everything that comes to their mind.